When I was living in Tennessee last year, the environment was lovely; all the pastoral backgrounds looked like Hallmark cards. I had all the shopping I wanted within a few miles of where I lived, great friends close by, and lots of opportunity for adventure in the beautiful Smoky Mountains and resulting rivers and streams they created all over town.
But it wasn't me. I didn't feel at home in that part of the country, in fact, I often felt like a fish out of water. There was nothing on the outside to complain about, but on the inside, I always knew and felt that I was only there temporarily: I was biding my time until the next right thing came along.
But things just don't 'come along' on their own. You have the power and ability to create what you want, instead of just living with what you have, powerlessly.
Last winter dumped a lot of snow on East Tennessee, and something inside of me said, "That's it!" I wanted tropical sunshine, warm beaches, year-round good weather, a progressive community, and yet still remain within the US.
At that time I had a screensaver on my laptop that was a series of pictures I had taken during a trip to Maui nearly a decade before. Every time my computer went to sleep, there were these fabulous scenes of turquoise blue waters, black lava rock coastlines, and swaying palm trees. I didn't know it at the time, but just mindlessly staring at those images while I was on the phone, taking coaching calls or doing other business, I was subconsciously magnetizing the plans for my next dream location.
Last month, I moved into a wonderful, clean and new apartment right across the street from the ocean. I breathe in the salt air when I walk out onto the lanai at night, and stare up to a starry, deep indigo sky. I fall asleep at night to that steady, rhythmic roar, which is my beloved Pacific Ocean.
I even have my own personal palm tree right over my head on the lanai! (Seriously, this is the view above me from where I am writing this now.)
Making this happen was not a smooth walk in the park. The day before the trucking company came to pick up my car in Knoxville, my transmission went out and had to be replaced at the dealership. This was an unexpected but necessary expense that really threw me! The move also required eliminating quite a few belongings, and each one of them found a place to go. It was a real trimming down that required time and energy.
But I was pushed. Pushed from the inside. Because I knew Spirit is always wanting to give us every possible thing that would make us happy. We just don't realize it, believe it, or even know sometimes what to ask for!
I really love helping and supporting people who are ready, willing, and are able to dream, and who then start taking action steps to living a life more extraordinary than imaginable.
If you're one of the many souls out there wondering if and when your dreams are ever going to start happening for you, I can tell you they start when you make the decision to make them happen!
Here are a few tips to follow, once you've decided:
- Do Some Research. Make this part of your dream making plan. Whatever your goal, whether it's to lose weight, find that perfect partner, move across the world or get your book done, do some preliminary homework and get better informed. Once you know more, you will also be able to fill in the blanks and dream more!
- Get support. Find people who really believe in you, will not think your dreams are crazy, and will be there for you when the journey to getting there gets a little bumpy. And believe me, it will. It's kind of like the universe wanting to make sure you're really committed to having what you want. When the going gets tough, you want to have a few close confidants who can push you back up that hill again.
- Distance yourself from those who would take you down. Some people may feel threatened that you are intending to make changes. It causes them to look at their own lives, and feel bad about them. Your only focus is upward and forward movement, with heart. Allow your nay-sayers to fall by the wayside, and don't waste time nor energy defending your dream. Surround yourself with people who lift you higher!
- Hire a coach. Yes, I am one, have one, and this is shameless self-promotion because it works! If you want to get this done in 1/3 of the time it would normally take, invest in yourself and find the right coach. Investing in support will provide you with clarity, accountability and direction toward your goals. A good coach will be able to see where your limiting beliefs are that may be stopping you from achieving your dream, especially more easily.
- Don't fall into the trap of always using your friends and family as your sounding board. Yes, it is helpful to have them around to support you. However, they may not necessarily be trained to know how to pull the best out of you, nor do they always want to hear it. They have their own lives, you know? Advice-giving is very common among the 'un-trained.' Is that really what you want to hear from others, and what you want for yourself?
Let's get real about what your life looks like now, and what you want instead.There is nothing more fun, vibrant, or soul-fulfilling than using your mind, creativity, and energy to create the life you want.