Loving Yourself Means Saying "No."
Have you ever felt pulled in so many directions, with people needing you, obligations in your family, in your work, in your life in general?
Sometimes all these directions you're being pulled in can lead you feeling depleted, unhappy, and sometimes quite miserable. It seems the never-ending stream of demands from you can't seem to stop, and it goes on and on, day after day, and weeks turn into month. Until in fact, you're not sure who you really are anymore.
There can also be a pattern of doing something, a job, or commitment you have somewhere, that doesn't fulfill you anymore, but somehow you find yourself in it thinking that this just what you have to do, because that's what you signed up for.
These continued demands on you, that aren't bringing you joy or fulfillment can have very damaging effects on your self esteem, your confidence and you happiness with life in general.
You weren't meant to be stretched in a thousand different directions, being at the beck and call of anyone who has needs, anywhere.
Yes we want to be generous and kind. However if you're someone who is continually approached by people who have needs, it's likely because you subconsciously want it this way.
It's not the fault of the others who are coming to you. You've chosen this in a way, so that you can feel loved by others.
When you get to give, or to serve others in need, you feel, then you are worthy, and likely to be loved a little more.
But these are not the right motivations to be serving. Choosing to be available for everyone who asks is an attack upon your true self, and needs to stop.
Self-care is what your meant for. Only when you can feel good, will you feel satisfied with your life, and begin to get on the pathway to a higher purpose.
Ask yourself this now: "What am I getting out of being available to all these people all the time?"
Is this what you want?
Is it truly making you feel good?
Is the sense of worthiness you want to feel coming from these endeavors? And if so, is it temporary, or is it lasting?
Asking yourself these questions will help you to identify when and where you are giving as part of your life purpose, or if you're giving to the point of exhaustion out of obligation, or a need to be recognized.
What is true for you?
When you have a moment, make a list of all the areas of your life that are pulling on you, and see where you can begin to start saying "No".
No one and nothing has dibs over you unless you want it to be that way.
No sense of obligation or shame should keep you where you no longer belong.
Start practicing loving your true self more, by acting on your own inner guidance to start saying "No". It is truly only in this way will you ever be able to stand strong in your own real function in the world.
Much love and many blessings,
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